Apart from her remembering who her enemy was and forgetting all else and it has happened more frequent.
She could remember so clearly that she has no memory... and that frightens her.
I was not able to pacify her and she cried. I seldom see my mum cry. My usual practice would be to lighten the mood and tell her that her memory will all come back in a few hours. And it often does. But how long will this last.
How long can I continue to lie to her?
Will it make any difference to an Alzheimer patient? Can they tell that I am lying?
It breaks my heart to watch my mum cry. Her mind is an empty slate and I fear that if at that moment filling in the blanks for her would make her more fearful. How could she not remember a single thing!!
I am not sure how I should feel... guilty perhaps.
I am not sure how I should feel... guilty perhaps.
Hi Swift. Try not to think of it as lying. Rather, you are doing the very best you can to bring calm to the situation and to reassure your mum. She will take her cue from you. As you reassure her, she will respond favorably to this.
ReplyDeleteRemember this is the kindest thing that you can do for your mum! It is not lying, it is trying to help her find peace at this point in her life.
Take care; sending hugs.
Thank you Carole for your kind words and understanding.
ReplyDeleteSending hugs your way too! Take care.